Locus of Control - How much responsibility do YOU take in your life?

Locus of Control - How much responsibility do YOU take in your life? How much do you rely on other people to boost your self esteem? Its amazing really that so few people have even heard of Locus of Control but it plays a huge part in all of our lives. Unless you understand a little bit about yourself its very easy to fall in to the External Locus of Control way of thinking. This basically means that all the good things that happen in your life you tend to put down to other people making it happen or other things making it happen - you dont process things Internally, you dont process your achievements. You just wait for things to happen... and then are so disappointed when nothing happens, thinking to yourself why cant I have some good luck now and again, why does crap always happen to me.

Taking control to gain an Internal Locus of Control is about focussing on what you want to happen in your life and then taking responsibility to make it happen rather than to sit back and wait for things to happen. Wouldnt it be easy for example to fall out with a friend and take no responsibility to try and "patch things up" relying instead on waiting for someone else to take responsibility to get the ball rolling. I'm sure we have all done that... But wouldnt you feel better, have a greater feeling of self esteem, in you decided to take things in to your own hands rather than wait for someone or something else to fix things? Or what about wanting to get a new job but you sit waiting for someone else to offer you a new position or approach YOU ... chances are it probably wont happen. Instead you can take the initiative and get your CV out there, scour the newspapers, get on the books of agencies, and actually start to work on WHAT YOU WANT to happen. That action would boost your self esteem hugely.

This Locus of Control is a huge part of why people tend to fail at diets - they know what they want to happen ie lose weight, but they dont take enough responsibility to MAKE it HAPPEN. If you could develop an Internal Locus of Control you would focus on what you want to happen ie Lose Weight, and then think about HOW CAN I INFLUENCE THAT to get the result that I want? Of course you could eat only when you are hungry, stop eating when you start to get full, eat healthy smaller portions and do some exercise to assist the weight loss.,

I can help you to develop an Internal Locus of Control very quickly so if there are areas of your life that you feel you need to improve, why not make that first step by calling me GREG COYNE the Bedford Hypnotherapiston 01234 313186 or emailing me on greg.coyne@purehypno.com? If you dont you could be waiting for things to happen... for a very, very long time!